THE BRAND DIVIDE! http://dawn.com/2011/06/12/lifestyle-the-brand-divide/

          

Times have changed! So have our values! Today the amount of respect one gets in society is directly proportional to the price of the designer clothes one is wearing, the price and model of his/her cell phone and wrist watch, the brand of his/her shoes and in case of women the number of diamonds glittering on her fingers or ear lobes! We no more value people for their honesty, truthfulness, patriotism, academic qualifications or contribution towards the welfare of society. All these qualities have taken a back seat in the fast moving and materialistic world we are living in.

The brand mania has taken our society by the storm! We spent (or throw away) money without even a second thought on branded consumer goods like clothes, shoes, bags, watches or cell phones just to mention a few of them. Clever marketing tactics have hoodwinked us into believing that the more we spend, the better quality we will get, but this is not always true. I admit to the fact that to compete and succeed in the markets, branded goods usually maintain their quality. But this does not mean that cheaper alternatives of nearly the same quality are not available.

Only a few years ago, brand was a word usually used for a foreign made consumer good with an internationally recognized logo. Names like Levis, Wrangler, Nike, Rado, Reebok, Christine Dior, Yardley (to name only a few), were only within reach of the high income class. But now the scenario has changed completely. Local brands are storming the markets and fleecing people by charging exorbitant rates for their goods. Although their target consumers are the privileged class, but the not so privileged are also trapped by their advertising campaigns.

Until a decade back, most of us were content with buying lawn suits from our neighbouring markets as lawn was basically considered a summer comfort fabric. Some more budget conscious women preferred to wait till the end of the season sales, when they would buy and store their lawn suits for the next summers. Today the branded lawn suits have completely swept us off our feet and it is becoming sort of a status symbol to buy and wear these suits.

 The fashion designers, models and television celebrities are making the most of this mind set. They wake up one fine morning and announce their brand of lawn and start campaigning for it. The response they get depends upon their fame and popularity. Women rush to be the first to buy these exorbitant prized lawns as their exhibitions start. We see educated women throwing all norms of etiquette to the air as they push, shove and bustle against each other to be the first to reach the cherished material. And with a sense of great achievement they throw away hefty sums for a single suit! In their eagerness to win this rat race, they completely forget that only a small percentage of our population can afford this luxury. In a way, the brand mania is increasing the gap between the high and middle income classes, creating a sense of frustration and deprivation.

Amina, a homemaker says, “With my husband’s salary and the money I earn by giving tuitions at home, we can live a comfortable life. But I feel a sort of inferiority complex when I can not buy the designer dresses which every other women seems to be talking about. So, some months I give into impulse and get some branded stuff for myself. But I immediately start regretting this waste of money, as I have to cut down on the food expenses to make up for the gap created in my monthly budget thus compromising on my family’s health.

Nadia (name changed for the sake of privacy), a mother of four, laments, “When my two sons were young I used to get them jeans for around three to four hundred rupees. But now like their peers they demand branded jeans which cost anything from 2500 to 5000. How can a white collared family like ours afford such luxuries? Although at times I have to fulfill their demands, but more often than not I have to put my foot down and say a firm no! I fear that this may create an inferiority complex in them as most of their friends spend hefty sums on clothes,” she sighs.

I asked a student of Dow Institute of Medical Sciences, why he and his friends keep such expensive cell phones? He replied with a sheepish smile, “I can give you no particular reason for this mind set, it maybe peer pressure but expensive cell phones are a craze with our generation. We want the latest ones with unending options, most of which we seldom use (or need)! These too have to be changed at least twice a year or we will have to face the raised eyebrows of friends”.

Some people belonging to the middle income group are also seen eager to buy expensive branded goods. This may be due to the social pressure, or it may be a deep rooted sense of insecurity or inferiority complex. They may want to prove that they are not as hard pressed for funds as people take them to be! Whatever may be the reason for this sheer wastage of money, those of us who are not trapped into going for brands must learn not to feel under privileged, unfashionable or poor! All of us have the right to chose how and where we want to spend our hard earned money wisely!

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THE TRUE SPIRIT OF EID UL AZHA!

Eid ul Azha Mubarak to all my friends and readers… lets join hands on this auspicious day to spread the true message of Islam..Love, Peaceful co-existence, discipline, sacrifice, harmony, forgiveness, tolerance…. the list goes and and on but here I can mention only a few!

Eid ul Azha is just round the corner! The kids (and elders too) are enjoying the festive mood, with temporary tents put up in nearly every lane of the city and the cows and goats being pampered with all kinds of fodder goodies available in the market! Colorful necklaces, tinkling anklets and proud crowns are adorning the cows, bulls and goats and the occasional sheep and camels as we see JEWELLERY stalls set up at roundabouts and intersections. Children are comparing their animals to each other, boasting about the size and the rates and conducting races. An occasional runaway goat creates a furore as the desperate young owners are seen frantically trying to hold on to the ropes and if things get beyond their control seeking help from the older people around.

This spirit of enjoyment and enthusiasm will prevail till the first day of Eid, and then the reality will set in! Bravely trying to hold back their tears, the little ones will look away when the animals they have fallen in love with, are being slaughtered. And the Fathers and Mothers will take up the show from this point. After the frantic search for the (evasive) right butcher, a sharp eye has to be kept on him so that the meat is cut and carved properly (which it rarely is, to the chagrin of the lady of the house). As the meat starts to come in, Mothers quickly stuff their freezers and then make packets (from the remaining meat) for distributing among relatives, neighbours and the needy. And now she is all ready to prove her culinary abilities as she enters the kitchen armed with her recipe book or ready to cook Shan Masalas to prepare Kababs, Qorma, Biryani, Chops, Kaleji(liver) and Roast! The Eid feast comprises of a number of dishes all cooked with the sacrificial meat.

In all these festivities and enjoyments, how many of us remind ourselves or our children the reason why Eid ul Azha is celebrated? As I was busy in the kitchen making masalas for adding to the different dishes I intend to cook on Eid, this question struck me like lightning!

Eid ul Azha is celebrated in memory of Hazrat Ibrahim A.S. and his unquestioning submission to Almighty’s will! He made an exemplary sacrifice by intending to slaughter his beloved son, Hazrat Ismail A.S. because Allah had willed him to do so. And the saying goes, Like father like son, the brave son readily agreed to lay down his life to obey Allah’s command. But our Most Merciful Creator was only putting His prophet to a great test, which he passed with flying colors! And till all times to come, Muslims have been ordained to celebrate this day by sacrificing animals in the name of Allah!

But today, it is a tragic reality that most of us have forgotten the true spirit of this Muslim festival. Eid Ul Azha has become an occasion to show off our riches by entering into a race of who buys the greater number or the more expensive animal. Sadly, we are drifting far away from the teachings of our great religion and try to ignore what Allah has ordained us to do! Let apart sacrificing our most beloved things for the sake of Allah, we are not even willing to give up our sleep for performing the Fajr Salaat! We twist and bend the teachings of Islam to suit our whims and convenience! Sacrificing personal gains to follow what our Creator has made compulsory on us, foregoing our pleasures and adhering to the true spirit of our religion can bring about a great (and urgently needed) change in the Muslim world! Please give it a Thought!

A PROMISE IS A PROMISE! http://dawn.com/2012/10/20/personality-a-promise-is-a-promise/

Aside

Asad had been asking his friend and class fellow Naveed, to help him understand the new chapter on algebra equations.

Somehow math does not come to him easily, although he is good in literature and other subjects and is always eager to help out his classmates.

The two live at walking distance to each other and Naveed keeps on saying, “I promise you, I will come to your place tomorrow or ask you to come over and then I will explain the chapter to you.”

After wasting a week, Asad finally realises that Naveed is just stalling him by making false promises and has no intention of keeping his word, so he must seek help somewhere else.

Mummy is angry with Shirmeen because she has created a mess in her room. Throughout her exams, she kept on asking her mother not to clear up her bedroom as she had her notes and books strewn all around and did not want them to be misplaced.

“I promise you I will clear up everything myself once my exams are over,” she kept on telling her mother. But with more than a week after her papers are finally over, her room is still in the same condition. She is busy catching up on her sleep, hanging out with friends or browsing on the internet or simply doing nothing.

Whenever Mummy reminds her of her promise, Shirmeen has the same reply, “No Mummy! I am not in the mood today; I swear I will clear up everything tomorrow!”

Most of us do not realise that a promise is a word of honour, something we should consider our duty to keep once we have made it! So we should be careful before making a promise. Instead of making it a tool to put off things we do not want to do, we should only commit ourselves when we are sure we will do the task. According to an anonymous quote, “Promise only what you can deliver. Then deliver more than you have promised”.

The best way to keep a promise is not to make one in haste! So do not rush yourself into a commitment. If someone asks you for a favour, ask for some time to think it over before replying. Make sure that you want to do what you are being asked, and then be clear on what you are promising and what would be expected from you. Setting deadlines to do something often helps a lot.

The famous Swiss educationist, essayist and philosopher Jean Jacques Rousseau once said, “Those that are most slow in making a promise are the most faithful in the performance of it”.

Promises are made not only with the people around us; sometimes we make commitments to ourselves too. Your doctor thinks that you are getting obese and need to shed some kilos; you pledge that you will avoid all junk foods until you reach your required weight. Your result is not up to your (or your parents) expectations. And then you make a commitment with yourself that you will not waste time on television, computer and just hanging around with friends. But, time and again, you give in to temptation and break your promise.

“Only this one time” is the frame of mind which often makes us go back on a vow we have made with ourselves. And this leads to a loss of our self-esteem and confidence. It is like sending the message to our brain that we do not value our own word. Instead of making excuses for ourselves by stating the reasons we had to go back on a pledge, we should push and motivate ourselves and work a bit harder to fulfil our word.

There may be times when we are compelled to break a promise due to unavoidable circumstances. Maybe you had committed to your mother that you would look after a younger sibling while she goes to visit her ailing parent. But you feel you will not be able to afford the time due to lots of homework or a test the next day.

Feel free to discuss your problem and apologise for not being able to keep the promise. That will make her realise your difficulty, and if you have always been true to your word, she would certainly understand and think of an alternative which would suit you.

A promise may be regarding something not very important, like calling back a friend, replying to a letter or e-mail, visiting a relative or running an errand for your mother; once you have given your word, be sure to fulfil it! It is a social responsibility as well as a part of a good and likeable personality. People around you will trust you only when you are true to your word.

Otherwise they will label you as a disorganised or an irresponsible person.

So instead of taking promises as a means to put off things you do not consider important or just do not want or simply feel lazy about, you should consider them to be sacred and make all efforts to fulfil something you have pledged to do.

 

SHAAHKAAR!!

 

 

SHAAHKAAR!

Har maa ke khwaabon ki dunyaa mein

Basa hota hai eik haseen Shahkaar!

Takhleeq ke karab se guzar ke

Aur maut ki dehleez ko chu ke

Jab laut ke aati hai Wo

Eik nanhe se wujud ko

Apne pehloo mein paake

Bhul jaati hai wo saara dukh

Jo kuch hi der pehle saha tha us ne

Aur us nanhee si jaan ko

lagga ke apne seene se

Phir se bharne lagti hai

Apne haseen khwabon ke khaake mein rang

Jis tarah kori mitti ko dhaalta hai 

Nit nayi shaklon mein kumhaar

Ya phir saada canvas pe mussawir

Banaata hai haseen tasweerein!

Kuch aise hi har eik Maa,

Nanhe bache ko bhur ke apni baahon mein

Bunti hai hazaaron Rangeen se khwaab,

Us nanhe maasum se wujud ko

Aasmaan ki bulandi se bhee uncha dekhna chahti hai wo!

Us ke andar chupa hua khwabeeda Fankaar

Jaag uth ta angrai le ke

Aur……..

Banate hai apne khayaalon ki dunya mein

Eik haseen shaahkaar

Aur apne bache se

Uski ankhein karti hain

Eik khaamosh sawaal

Karoge na tum mere saare khwaab poore?!

Banoge na Tum eik din mera Shaahkaar ?!

Parenting: The sky is (not) the limit! (http://dawn.com/2012/10/14/parenting-the-sky-is-not-the-limit/)

Arif had been tense since the last two months. As the top debater of his school, he had won many medals. His other passion was cricket and the school team was not considered complete without him. However, his studies suffered because of these activities. Although his parents proudly displayed the trophies and medals he had won, they never hesitated to show their disappointment with his grades. Finally, he decided to leave the school cricket team and did not enrol for the interschool debate contest. He wanted to devote all his time to his studies and come up to his parents’ expectations. On the result day, his teacher praised him for the improvement he had shown and urged him to keep up the effort.

“I was very excited when I proudly handed over my report card to my parents. I had more than 70 per cent marks in all the subjects, but to my frustration, they were still not satisfied.
Mummy was expecting a position and Daddy compared my result with that of my cousin. I feel I can never come up to their expectations. How can I excel in every field of life?” he asks with a sigh.

We, as parents, are seldom satisfied with our children’s academic performance. We coax them, urge them, nudge them and push them to do more, to improve. For us the sky is the limit! But do we ever stop to think and ask ourselves whether we are being fair to our child? Are our expectations from him/her realistic or are we over burdening our children?

Most parents become defensive and argue that they want their child to perform well for the sake of his bright future. After all, he is the one who will benefit in his future life from the success. But is it not true that a child’s achievement is also directly linked to the parents’ prestige? Does it not satisfy our ego to boast in front of our friends and family about our child’s extraordinary performance?

Parents have the tremendous power to affect their child’s emotional health and attitude towards life. Our opinion of him plays a great role in the child’s self-esteem and what he feels and thinks about himself. But sometimes, in our eagerness to see them at the top, we unintentionally harm their confidence and sense of worth. Instead of making a child feel that life is a race, which he must win to feel loved and wanted, we should make him believe that he is loved for what he is, not for what he achieves!

Shaista, a mother of three children, says, “My second son is the most intelligent among my children. He gets good grades although he studies less than his siblings. Previously, I used to scold the others, setting him as their role model. But I felt their grades declined over the years. Then I realised my mistake. Each one of my children has a distinct personality and all of them cannot excel in every field. After my husband and I drew a line on what were our expectations from the less brilliant ones, we were able to help them better. And now I feel they are improving. My youngest is a great sportsman while the eldest has a very creative mind. Their talents were nurtured once they were given the opportunity.”

Parents must learn to create a proper balance between asking or expecting too much from a child and not asking enough of him. We must understand that our expectations may become a burden instead of a boost for our children.

This does not mean that we should not urge them to improve their grades. But there should be a difference between nudging and pushing a kid. Our children are like tender saplings which need a correct amount of water and sunlight to grow. We all know that an excess of these will do more harm than help. By creating a balance between what we want from him and what he can possibly achieve, we can gently lead a child towards a better performance.

The “you have done well, but you could have done better” attitude is frustrating for a child. It develops a sense of insecurity and decreases self esteem. In extreme cases, the continuous dissatisfaction of parents can make a child rebellious and often his performance suffer. Impatience, haste and comparison with other children can do more harm than good.

So, instead of declaring the sky as the limit, parents should never make the academic performance of their children a matter of personal pride. By trying to understand their strong points and helping them out in their weaknesses, we can boost our children’s self-esteem, so that they cater for themselves with more confidence in their abilities when they venture out into the world to start their lives on their own.

 

GOOD MORNING SUNSHINE!

Aside

I have been through good times and I have been through bad times. I have seen the heights of ecstasy and I have faced deep anguish and despair. These are the two faces of life all of us experience at one stage or the other. The ratio in which we experience them may be different, but joys and sorrows, although opposite in nature, mostly walk hand in hand.

This is the bitter sweet beauty of life! We all enjoy and celebrate our moments of joy, but the quality of our lives depends entirely on how we tackle adversities. Firm faith that whatever (good or bad) happens, happens for a reason and an optimistic approach towards difficulties can help one sail through the rough seas of life.

Sehrish, a mother of three, was overwhelmed by grief after the sudden death of her husband. In the morning he dropped her off at her office, but in the evening when he didn’t come to pick her up as was his daily routine, she took a rickshaw and came home.
She was a bit surprised to see him peacefully sleeping in his bed.

She learnt that he had come home a couple of hours earlier than usual and had gone to bed as he was not feeling well. Sehrish tried to wake him up but when he simply did not respond, she called in a doctor who declared that he had died in his sleep as a result of a massive heart attack. She was devastated at the news.

As to how she overcame the trauma, she says, “The following months are still a hazy memory for me. Slipping into deep depression, I gave up my job, stopped taking care of myself and was so engulfed in self-pity that I didn’t even take proper care of my three kids, who suffered physically and emotionally, because of my negative attitude, until the day when their school teachers came for a visit.

“Trying not to sound too harsh, they complained about my kids’ untidy appearance, bad performance and sliding grades. ‘Why should your children suffer for something no one could control?’ they asked me. ‘Death has taken away their father and your depression has deprived them of their mother’s love, something they now need more to make up for their loss’. Their words brought me out of the stupor”.

Sehrish says that she vowed to pull herself back to normal life for the sake of her children. She has been fairly successful as she got herself a new job and started taking interest in her children, their studies and life in general.

People surrounded by difficulties often say that life is not a bed of roses, but being a great optimist I often ask them, “Whoever said that life is a bed of thorns?” I agree that life can be cruel, but it also is kind. So, instead of complaining about life’s adversities, about what we yearned to have but could not achieve in life, just for a change, we should stop and look around ourselves.

We will find people less blessed than us, people whose lives are much tougher than ours. For a positive approach towards life, the first step is to count our blessings and forget (or at least try to do so) our deprivations. In his famed classic, War and Peace, Leo Tolstoy beautifully writes, “Pure and complete sorrow is as impossible as pure and complete joy”.

Like most people I have also had my share of hardships. But I have my own way of coping with problems. When I can find no way out of despair, even if only for the time being, I try my best to keep myself busy during the day, not allowing myself time to be depressed. “Cool down”, I keep on reminding myself, “There has to be some way out! It may take time but the solution will come”.

The rising sun brings new hopes. I leave my bed and pull back the curtains. ‘Thank God for another day’, a voice inside me whispers. In spite of the tough times, I can still feel the coolness of the morning breeze on my face, see the butterfly fluttering on the flowers in my little garden and hear the birds happily chirping away.

I draw back the curtains further to allow the sunbeams come dancing down on my bed. ‘Good Morning Sunshine!’ I exclaim with a smile as I brace myself for a new day with a renewed hope that today things might change for the better. I love to remind myself of what American journalist and author Mignon Mc Laughlin said, “Hope is the feeling we have that the feeling we have is not permanent!”

Life: The hate mongers


Life: The hate mongers

By Yasmin Elahi

The boss has a crush on his young, beautiful but married secretary. The girl is tactful enough to keep his advances at bay and still retain her job. Her colleagues have planned a surprise birthday party for the boss which the (unsuspecting) girl discusses at home with her mother-in-law.

On the fateful day the boss is astonished but delighted to receive a card and a big bouquet from her and calls to say thanks. The girl is devastated because she has sent neither of them, but her husband (who is sure to be at home at that particular time) does not believe her. So, a big row follows. The mother-in-law, who is listening to them argue bitterly, stays neutral but the smug look on her face has a lot to say!

The daughter-in-law is not to be deterred and plans a quick revenge. The next day she seems to misplace her wedding ring (a precious diamond one, of course). She hunts for it everywhere and looks visibly agitated. The (seemingly) loving mama-in-law is all sympathy for her as she helps in the search. In the evening the daughter-in-law opens her mother-in-law`s cupboard to get something for her and lets out a scream (of delight). The ring is right there, shining brightly and she turns towards the older lady in disbelief, her accusing look saying more than words.
One has only to put two and two together to guess how the ring reached there.

These are not true stories but scenes from one of the endless (and senseless) soap operas which the ever mushrooming television channels dish out day in and day out! We see people of every age addicted to them. They gleefully watch episode after episode of the plays even though the story moves at a snail`s pace. Why are people attracted to these soap operas? Some people say that these plays are an escape from the harsh realities of life while others argue that this is the best way they can spend their leisure hours, but very few of us realise what harm they are doing to our family values!

The family is the core of the human existence and its members are supposed to provide each other with love and security, to share each other`s happiness, problems and sorrows, and to tend to each other`s needs. The majority of the soap operas have a negative impact on these values. Most of the plays are set against an urban backdrop, about families belonging to the high social strata, where the ladies have nothing better to do than to don expensive dresses, heavy (and unnatural) makeup and jewellery and relax in luxuriously furnished lounges. They have to do no house work, no cooking, no washing or ironing and no looking after their kids. All they seem to do is to plot, scheme and hatch conspiracies against other family members! Back biting seems to be the order of the day as these ladies manipulate simple day-to-day events to their selfish motives. In the above mentioned examples, both the ladies go miles to demean other down, even though their hatred for each other is beautifully sugar coated.

The most important target in most soaps are the in-laws. Marriage is not only a bond between two individuals it is a new set of relationships between two families. This relationship is supposed to be based on mutual love, understanding and respect for each other, with every one realising the others` rights and working together towards a peaceful and loving family. The love for in-laws is not in the blood, as that for biological bonds; it has to be nurtured step by step, day by day after making many compromises and sacrifices.

On the contrary, most TV plays are teaching women to hate instead of love, to doubt instead of to trust, to avenge instead of to forgive and to humiliate instead of to respect. Women are portrayed not as home makers but as home breakers, all out to destroy the peace, tranquillity and happiness from a happy family life.

In the normal life, do we find women as cunning and ill meaning to each other as depicted in these plays? I don`t claim that relationship with in-laws is all bliss but the question is, “Is anyone perfect in this world?” We have to be perfect ourselves before expecting or demanding perfection from others.

The viewers of soap operas, especially young girls, are so taken by the charm and glamour of the characters that they lose the capability of distinguishing facts from fiction and have no idea what subtle change is undergoing in their approach towards family life. These hate-mongers on the idiot box are teaching us to hate, distrust and humiliate the people who should be the most near and dear to our hearts. Shouldn`t all of us stand up against this slow poison to the roots of our being before it is too late?

DO MORE! MR BARACK OBAMA!!

DO MORE, MR. BARACK OBAMA!

Words seem to fail me these days! I have tried to write this blog many times but after finishing and re reading, I find my vocabulary too weak and inadequate to express my sentiments. The agony, rage and a sense of helplessness and despair that I am feeling are common to the majority of the two billion Muslims around the world! Like all Muslims (and even sensible non-Muslims), I heard with indignation and disbelief that a video clip called Innocence of Muslims in which an attempt has been made to degrade our Prophet Muhammad S.A.W. has been posted on the YouTube.  So much has been written on the issue, initially I wondered whether I should write anything more or not. But my conscience keeps me restless during the days and sleepless during the nights. My share may be only a drop in the ocean, but I feel compelled to share my sentiments with my readers because whether they express it or not, I know that they all must be going through the same pain and frustration (how could any Muslim not react to such venom and insult to the person we revere and respect as the Messenger of Allah).

I would like to clarify first that by no means do I favour or defend the violence and unnecessary loss of precious lives and property, in reaction to the blasphemous video, especially here in Pakistan. We had every right to protest, but I feel ashamed and disappointed that we did not do so in a civilized and dignified manner. Precious lives were lost and property was burned and raised to the ground by unruly mobs.

The Government of Pakistan made a great blunder by calling Friday (the 21st September) Yaum e Ishq e Nabi, the day to show love for the Prophet PBUH a public holiday. Making decisions in haste and not taking into consideration the consequences it will lead to, have cost us a lot in the past. Making no proper security arrangements and ignoring the religious fanaticism with which the video has whipped frenzy into the life of an average Pakistani, Mr. Zardari our (un)popular President conveniently flew off to England on a private visit and the more (un) popular Prime Minister did not even have enough courage to venture out to the Convention Centre in Islamabad to make his speech in the announced seminar. The country was left in the hands of miscreants and mischief mongers who (in the name of love for the Prohet PBUH) took the law into their hands. The rangers were conspicuous by their absence and the police was not at all prepared for the free show of anger and violence.

But in spite of all this which I do not defend, I must lodge my protest against the so called ‘Freedom of Expression’. Every civilized society gives freedom of expression to its members and it is one of the basic rights in a democratic nation. But where do we draw a line between this freedom and pure venom, unasked (and intentional) provocation of the religious sentiments of billions of people around the world? We claim that we live in a civilized world but have we proved that we are a civilized generation? Trying to defame and insult the Prophet Muslims love and hold in high esteem, is just an act of snobbery and hatred, something which no one can get away with the so called right of Freedom of Expression! In his criminal act of releasing the video Innocence of Muslims via YouTube, Sam Bacille has thrown all norms of civility, ethics and morals to the air! 

The President of the United State of America, Mr Obama in his speech in the General assembly has tried to pacify the Muslim sentiments of indignation by declaring that USA disowns the movie and has nothing to do with it. He has urged the entire humanity to reject the disgusting video which has sparked outrage throughout the Muslim World. He is right in most of the things he said as he also criticized Muslims for causing loss to lives and property and reacting violently to the hate movie.  

 But, I disagree with you Mr Obama when you declare, (quote) “As president of our country and commander in chief of our military, I accept that people are going to call me awful things every day, and I will always defend their right to do so” (unquote). With due respects Mr. President, I must remind you that you may be the President of The United States of America, but please do not forget that you hold this post for only five or at the most ten years. Comparing criticism on yourself with the downright insulting and blasphemous video about the Prophet of Islam is simply outrageous! Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W. is a personality who is loved and respected by Muslims and (although grudgingly) by sensible non-Muslims as well, since the advent of Islam and will be done so till all times to come! If you are criticized, this is the price you have to pay for reaching the highest rung of the ladder of success. In no means can this justify a madman’s sickening and malicious endeavor to try to insult our Prophet PBUH.

This is not something which you can call Freedom of Speech or Expression. It is downright provocation and can be likened to pouring petrol over a flame. For years, USA has been mounting pressure on Pakistan to ‘Do More’ in the War against terrorism. We as a nation have suffered a lot because of this war. Lives (most of them innocent) have been lost, our peace of mind destroyed and our economy is on the down slide! Now this is the time for Pakistanis and all the Muslim Ummah to ask the USA and President Barack Obama to ‘DO MORE’!

According to the laws of The USA, a person can be sued for causing physical or psychological damage to some one. Don’t you feel that Bacille who made the hate movie, should be brought to court and given exemplary punishment for hurting and enflaming the emotions of more than two billion people. Muslims may be held responsible for the loss to lives and property but the root cause behind this outrage and fury should be dealt with an iron fist. Instead of declaring your inability to ban the disastrous video and attributing it to freedom of expression, you Mr. Obama should ‘Do More’ and deal with the issue more effectively by not only slamming an immediate ban on it but also amending the laws which have rendered you helpless inspite of the outcry and protests all over the world.

To all Muslims, I would like to appeal, show your love for Hazrat Muhammad Sallaho Alaihe Wasallam by trying to ponder how he would have reacted in such a situation. He preached humanity and compassion, forgave when he could avenge and always refused to be provocated in the most sensitive situations. Instead of walking in the trap deliberately set up to further derogate the Muslims we must exercise restraint and lodge our protest according to the norms of a civilized society. This is the time when we can prove to the world that barring a minority of religious extremist, Muslims are a peace loving and disciplined people. This is what ISHQ E NABI (the love of our Prophet) demands from us!