Eidul Azha is just round the corner. As I step into my terrace with my evening cup of tea, I hear happy shouts of children. I peep out of my front door and see a few children of the neighbourhood having the time of their lives, as they race their goats in the lane. A group of those who haven`t yet attained this honour are participating in the celebration by running along, clapping, shouting and urging the goats to run faster.
Some have even managed to sneak twigs from their gardens and are offering it to the goats in the hope that the proud owner will allow him to race the goat for a while.
The most frequently asked questions among the children these days are, `Have you been to the mandi yet?` `When will your dad get the sacrificial animals` and the most troublesome of all `Howmuch did you (or your father) pay for this goat (or cow)? Eidul Azha is steadily becoming a competition, a rat race to acquire the largest or most expensive animal in the neighbourhood, whether it is a goat, a sheep or a cow. Those of us who have paid a hefty sum for their animals display them around proudly, grabbing every opportunity to mention the price. The people who are regular in performing the yearly sacrifice but cannot afford very expensive animals, feel a bit let down. Although they are sure to join the daily ritual of walking and racing of their goats, the feeling of embarrassment is written loud and clear on their innocent faces.
Is this display and competition the real spirit of this festival? Let us remind ourselves about the true spirit of Eidul Azha. This great Muslim Festival, which is second only to Eidul Fitr, teaches us great lessons every year. It is not about boasting how much we can spend or showing off how rich we are. On the contrary, it teaches the lessons of obedience, sacrifice, compassions and how we should share our blessings with those who are not as privileged as we are!
Apart from the religious aspects of the lessons we learn and relearn every year (total submission to the Will of the Almighty), Eidul Azha revives in us social and moral values. The lesson we learn from this festival of sacrifice is universal and applicable to all mankind. It reminds us of our blessings and kindles feelings of compassion in our heart for the poor around us.
Last year, just to check if the meat seller in my locality was charging me the correct rates of beef and mutton, I asked my maid at what rate she was buying these commodities. She looked at me with a rueful smile, “How do I know baji? It is difficult to manage daal roti (lentil and bread) for my big family, I can’t afford to buy meat. We have beef and mutton only at Baqr eid when people like you give us some, or sometimes when a baji like you gives away her leftovers.”
My maid’s reply taught me a disturbing lesson. We have more than one dish at our table each day and one of them is sure to be of meat, whether it is mutton, chicken or beef. But if I look around with a compassionate heart, I feel that I have more of everything than what I really need. And I always took this blessing for granted.
Dear friends, this year when your parents are distributing the meat from the sacrificed animals, urge them to give away bigger packets to the needy. Instead of stuffing our fridges and freezers with the meat, let us think about those who have not been able to afford sacrificing an animal and will so happily and thankfully like to receive some meat from others. These people cannot afford to buy meat otherwise the rest of the year too. Let them have a hearty feast with their families and enjoy the meat for a few days. If possible, make some extra place in your freezers so that you can store small packets for your household helpers, which they can take away after a few days.
Festivals are happy occasions meant to bring people together. They revive in us the spirit of sharing and on Eidul Azha we are taught to do this by sharing the meat from the sacrificial animals so that there is a feast in every home, regardless of status. And you can share your extra clothes, books, toys and other items of daily use which are more than your requirements. Spread happiness among the less fortunate by sharing your blessings with them because, in the end, the spirit of sacrifice, compassion and love for humanity counts, not the size, health or price of the goat, sheep or cow we sacrifice on Eidul Azha!
Two of the main lessons we learn from this occasion are obedience and sacrifice.
Obedience: Most of my young friends know that the sacrifice of animals Muslims make from the 10th to 12th of ZilHaj every year is to commemorate the great sacrifice of the Prophet Ibrahim A.S. He dreamt that he was sacrificing his only son Ismail as Allah had ordained him to do so.
Both father and son had no second thoughts in complying with this Divine Order, but Allah in His infinite Mercy, replaced the little boy with a ram. The lesson we learn from this great sacrifice is universal and applicable to all mankind. We should obey the Almighty without arguing or complaining. Our parents and our teachers are our greatest well-wishers in this world. Often young minds cannot contemplate what they ask or expect from us, but obeying without complaining always brings good results for us.
Sacrifice: Children are the most valuable assets of every parent, who leave no stone unturned to keep them away from all harm. Prophet Ibrahim’s A.S readiness to sacrifice his son on Allah’s command teaches us an important lesson. When we observe Eidul Azha and sacrifice animals, we part with a good amount of our money, but we make this sacrifice to help the people who are not as privileged as we are.
The holy month of Ramazan has arrived with its endless blessings! These are strange and blessed days as we all feel a change in ourselves, a change for the better. We find ourselves more inclined towards good deeds; more compassionate towards the people around us and witness a strange urge to share our blessings with those who do not have the privileges we enjoy (and sometimes take for granted).
Those of us who (unfortunately) are not regular in their prayers, promptly get up for ablution and proceed to pray as soon as we hear the Moazzin’s call. The sound of the Maghrib Azan is perhaps the most welcome sound of the day. After the long hours of hunger and thirst, our fast comes to an end and we enjoy the endless mouth-watering goodies mummy so lovingly prepares for us.
But even in these moments we do not forget our maid, driver, cook or the chowkidaar and make it a point to lay out plates for them with all the things on the Iftar table that we will be having!
Friends, Ramazan is a month of great rewards as Allah has promised to bestow His grace on us manifolds for all the good deeds we perform. So, when you are fasting, instead of taking it only as an abstinence from food and drink, try to ponder on the importance of fasting. The hunger and thirst we experience make us realise the hardships of the people who are not as lucky as us!
So, think about ways to help people around you. Try to reflect on the plight of children like you who have been pushed into child labour due to the poverty of their parents. Although they deserve education just as you do, they cannot go to schools because their parents cannot afford the expenses. Instead, they toil in the heat to earn the extra money their family needs to make both ends meet! You can make the days of Ramazan more valuable by sharing your blessing with these children.
Scan your wardrobe for the clothes you seldom wear but that are still in good condition. Empty your shoe rack and put back only those you really need. Sort out your toys, stationery, story books, etc, and give away what you think is more than your requirements.
These extra things you keep on collecting (but hardly use) can make Eid happier and brighter for your less privileged peers. When you go out for Eid shopping, don’t forget to remind mummy to get some new stuff for the maid and her kids too.
This year you have the extra advantage of summer vacation, so you do not have to brave the heat of the scorching sun during the fast. You can also get up later than your normal routine. This Ramazan make your time precious by sharing your free time. Help out at home to lessen the workload of your mother and maids too.
Clearing up your rooms, making your beds, laying the table and clearing up after Sehr and Iftar, can be positive steps on your part to relieve those who keep on toiling endlessly to keep you comfortable.
Be prompt to get up at Sehr. In most homes, we see mothers running frantically from room to room, trying to pull out sleepy children from their beds and making them eat and drink enough to pass the long hours of fasting with more ease. But often in this chaos, they hardly get time to have a proper meal themselves, although to be fair to them, they are the ones who need a proper diet the most!
So instead of making Sehr an exhausting experience for mummy, get up early and help out in laying the table and carry out the eggs, milk, cereals and whatever else she is serving you for Sehr. Make sure that she finishes her glass of milk, just as she wants you to finish yours.
When Daddy comes home from his job, try to help him in relaxing after he has braved the heat of the day. A gentle massage of the neck and feet will help him to relax and beat the fatigue of the long fast. Be sure not to quarrel with siblings, make unnecessary noise or put on the TV on high volume, so that he can snatch a nap before it is time for Iftar.
Friends, caring for people around us and sharing our blessings with them should be your motto this month. Ramazan is a month of obedience, sacrifice, discipline and devotion. You feel nearer to Allah and a softening of the heart.
Compassion is the key to a positive and better life! Let’s vow to practise this positive emotion not only in this holy month but the whole year round. You will be amazed by the sense of peace of mind and tranquillity you will feel engulfing your heart!
In the end I would like to quote a famous Hadith. Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “Allah says, ‘Every deed of the son of Adam is for him, except fasting; it is for me and I shall reward for it.’ Fasting is a shield. If any one of you is fasting, let him not utter obscene talk or raise his voice in anger, and if anyone insults him or wants to fight, let him say: I am fasting. By the One in whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, the smell coming from the mouth of the fasting person is better before Allah than the fragrance of musk. The fasting person has two moments of joy: when he breaks his fast he rejoices at breaking his fast and when he meets his Lord, the Mighty and Sublime, he will rejoice at having fasted’.”
Happy Ramazan and a happier Eid to all my friends!